Gay
people are walking around scared, and they have been walking around scared
their whole lives.
How
do I know? When I asked four gay couples in my community to lend their voices
to a story on Washington’s marriage equality bill, SB6239, only one pair agreed to be
featured in the story - and those two agreed with fear and trepidation.
Marge
and Pat, John and Carl, Sunny and June, (names changed) each went home to their
partner, discussed the interview seriously, and opted out. John and Carl
initially agreed - we even had set a day and time to meet - and then they
backed out.
Carl
said he had read the comments to a thread on the Methownet.com bulletin board
and “got nervous.” He said, “We own a business, and we are not comfortable
putting ourselves out there for scrutiny.”
The
bulletin board thread he referred to started as a positive remark - someone
posted that they were proud to live in this state. Subsequent comments were
mostly supportive until it got to the guy who basically said, “Next they’ll
want to marry their dogs.”
Sunny
said, “We've only been met with kindness in this valley, and it would be very
sad for us to read any hateful backlash letters pointed at us as a couple and
parents in the following week (or even worse, have [our son] read the letters).”
Pat
is in seminary and said it would be “complicated.”
So,
I get it. We all just want to live our lives, not stick our necks out too far -
god knows gays and lesbians already stick their necks out just by being
themselves - and continue to live in this welcoming community. We don’t want
hate directed at us.
But
who is going to tell this story? And how long must people walk around in fear?